Separate special moments from open dancing
Make a list for your ceremony, entrance, first dance, family dances and final song. Include the exact artist and recording where you have a preference. Then make a separate list of music you would enjoy during open dancing. These lists serve different purposes: one helps cue specific moments; the other helps your DJ understand your taste.
Give your DJ a short must-play list
Choose the songs that matter most and explain why. Let your DJ know whether you want country, pop, Motown, rock, hip-hop or a mix. Mention the ages and musical tastes in your group without assuming every guest will like the same thing.
Leave room for the DJ to respond to the room. A song that feels right after dinner may be less effective during a quiet transition or right after a special dance.
Make a do-not-play list that is clear
There is no universal list of songs that should never be played at a wedding. Tell your DJ about songs, artists, lyrics or themes you want to avoid. Mention whether clean versions are required and whether there are songs with personal associations you would rather skip.
Decide how guest requests should work. For example, you might welcome requests that fit your style while asking your DJ to keep the do-not-play list firm.
Plan breaks and transitions
Dinner, toasts, cake and special dances can change the energy in a room. Work with your planner and entertainment team on the order of events so guests understand when it is time to listen, watch or dance.
If you want a group dance, anniversary dance or another participation moment, discuss it in advance. Guests can enjoy the event in different ways; leave comfortable space for conversation as well as dancing.
Put the choices in one place
Once booked, use the client planning tools to organize event details and song selections. Review the final list with your DJ rather than sending competing versions through several messages.
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